Recognize: Why do you drink? Do you feel helpless, trapped, powerless, out of control? What good do you get from your chemical abuse? What are the underlying emotional themes that lead to the experience of helplessness and, in turn, its addictive solution? Benefits are always there! Your brain is NOT hijacked! There is always a reason and a reward! We choose compulsive behavior because it feels good to be in control, escape the helplessness trap. All compulsive behavior is all about regaining control of helpless, trapped, circumstances with displaced behaviors! (Will my needs and goals be met if I keep doing what I am doing for the next 10 minutes? 10 months? 10 years?" Recognize and understand the long-term impact of your everyday actions to decide if you need to change).
Reframe: What are the problems associated with it? Do you regain control with Displaced behavior or Direct? What benefits would there be from stopping? What defenses do I employ or to keep myself from seeing the key moment? (Change always comes down to price vs. motive. If the price of change is higher than the underlying motive, then you won’t change. Conversely, if the motive to change is greater than the price, then nothing will stop you, you will change! To increase your motivation, consider the effect your success is having on your life. Everything in your life either is positively impacted by your success or negatively impacted by a lack thereof. That’s motivation!
Replace: Replace the benefits from addiction. Shift the benefits or re-channel them! What more direct alternative actions could I have taken in place of the addictive act? (substitute healthy feelings and thinking). Regain control over your helpless feelings with Christ Driven Behavior that honors God!
When you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, we gain new benefits, values, motivation and purpose. Replace your old behavior with Christ Driven Behavior. Always ask: Will my behavior honor God? This is the new direct healthy behavior!
Reframe: What are the problems associated with it? Do you regain control with Displaced behavior or Direct? What benefits would there be from stopping? What defenses do I employ or to keep myself from seeing the key moment? (Change always comes down to price vs. motive. If the price of change is higher than the underlying motive, then you won’t change. Conversely, if the motive to change is greater than the price, then nothing will stop you, you will change! To increase your motivation, consider the effect your success is having on your life. Everything in your life either is positively impacted by your success or negatively impacted by a lack thereof. That’s motivation!
Replace: Replace the benefits from addiction. Shift the benefits or re-channel them! What more direct alternative actions could I have taken in place of the addictive act? (substitute healthy feelings and thinking). Regain control over your helpless feelings with Christ Driven Behavior that honors God!
When you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, we gain new benefits, values, motivation and purpose. Replace your old behavior with Christ Driven Behavior. Always ask: Will my behavior honor God? This is the new direct healthy behavior!